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How to make my son sit down and study?

Topic: How to make my son sit down and study?

Hello Yepmoms,

I am having difficulty making my 9 year old son sit down and study. 

I have to resort to threats like "I will not let you go out and play if you don't sit down and study for at least 20 min". I have even stopped subscribing to cable so that he will not be distracted by the TV. Even though I try to set a time for him to study every day, he will start talking to me about his school, friends and any subject and try to sabotage the time. If nothing helps, he is like "I don't want to study. I am not interested". The only time, he willingly sits and study is a week before his exams. 

I get frustrated making him sit and study. He resorts to disturbing and distracting his sisters from studying when he has no other go. If any one of you can help me with tips, I would be really grateful.

Thanks a lot

Best regards


Re: How to make my son sit down and study?

Hello Manju,

I have the same problem with my boy. I read recommendations that after they come home from
school we should let them play or rest 1-2 hours, and after sending them to study. For my
girl, it works good, but for my son, it won't work at all. If he does not sit down and study
right away he will not want to study later, it is hard for him to sit down and study.

But I think you are lucky that your son is talking with you about his day. You should make
time for him to do that and just talk with him and after he should go study.

My boy is studying for prizes, which are the 1-hour computer game and 1 hour tv time. He has
to write down his homework and study for next day by 18:00. If he completed it and cleaned
his room, made his chores he can have his fun time. This is the only thing that works for us.


Re: How to make my son sit down and study?

Thank you so much for your reply. 

I also try to make him study before sending him out to play. But I feel that when they are studying for incentives, they forget it fast. Also I could not in any way make him revise portions he has already studied other than during the exams by which time he would have forgotten the whole thing and would start from scratch.