As moms, I know it can be difficult to get any alone time, but it's beneficial to you and your kids that you do. I am a single mom of 2 girls, whom both have disabilities. I used to always do what needed to be done with the girls, and because I did everything alone, "me time" just wasn't happening. It took a toll on my mind and my body, I was constantly sick, always tired, and mentally I was depressed. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE my girls, and they make me a very happy and proud momma, but someday's when I really needed that moment of alone time but I felt I was being selfish and spent it with my kids instead really hits the brain.
One day, after getting my divorce papers, ended up lashing out at not only my children, but my sisters kids that I happened to be watching that day. and I realized, that I seriously needed a moment and felt horrible for how I yelled at the kids, I apologized to them, put on their favorite movie and gave them a snack. After, I went in my room and cried for about 10 minutes straight, then I collected my thoughts and went and sat with the kids to finish the movie.
That 10 minutes changed my entire day. From then on, if I ever feel over stressed, mad or upset. I make sure my kids have everything they need and are safe in their rooms/crib and I will sit in my room and give myself 10 minutes to feel what I need to, and relax myself. Doing this has made me a better mom in so many ways. I can calming talk with the kids, my brain isn't fried by stress at the end of the day that I held in so I actually get good sleep, I don't get sick as often anymore.
So I told you that, to tell you this. Please, PLEASE, make time for you, whether its just to have a cup of coffee, or to use the bathroom in peace, take a 10 minute break and relax when you need to. If you have infants, take the time while they are napping to watch your favorite shows, or read your favorite book, even take a nap too. It's so important to you body and mind that you get that time. If your relaxed, your kids will be too.